Tuscan colours

At this time of year when many are heading off to the beach, it’s not surprising in some ways that turquoise is showing up.  A colour many associate with the ocean.  And you will have noticed if you saw my LinkedIn post, this combination generated a lot of interest.  Here’s the interesting thing that you won’t know, the original set of bottles included a red and orange bottle!  As I have sat with the full set over the last few days I have received some great insights that I want to share with you.

When I first noticed this set of colours I was surprised.  I don’t often choose red these days and I rarely choose turquoise.  I realised it was important because I have noticed my clients also going for Turquoise bottles and another Colour Teacher has been observing a Turquoise pattern. As I sat with all that, the insights started dropping in. First off Turquoise often asks us to dive deep and release blocked emotions whilst Indigo promises an initiation out of which new structures will emerge.

What is the significance of red?

If you are playing out a strong red pattern then there’s a number of things that you might notice.  More than most you are likely to be locked in the myth of needing to be independent and be doing all you can to achieve financial independence.  That often leads to a busy pattern with the only real downtime being the weeks you go on holiday. I used to have a friend who spent most of her holiday sleeping on the beach as a way to recharge for the next marathon session as a Mum, wife and employee! 

This is all part of the money based society we live in where the dominant narrative is about earning a living so that you are not dependent on anyone else. Probably underneath that is a degree of scarcity thinking and a belief that this is a competitive society so this justifies the need for control: controlling the outcome wherever possible so you get the best deal.

How does this affect society?

What that translates into is working long hours whether you are a single parent or part of a couple.  This tends to mean that kids go into daycare to allow you to work and that has a knock on impact on the way children interact and play.  Gone are the days of outdoor play with those that live in your neighbourhood, it’s now all about playdates or manufactured play in the form of screens.  More than this it has moved from being in the public arena to being in the private one. 

Consider for a moment: how many of your neighbours do you actually know? How many, if any, would you feel comfortable reaching out to if your washing machine broke or you needed a dog sitter? How much do you enjoy the work that you do or is it a necessity to ensure that you can maintain a particular life style?

Awareness of our patterns is the first step to change.  If you have read this far you may be wondering what the alternative is. And here’s the rub there is no formula or 7 steps to change process.  Those sort of approaches are the tactics of marketeers who are appealing to the mind because it loves a set of techniques to follow!

Enter Turquoise stage left

This is where we need turquoise to make an appearance.  What we are being asked is to become more creative so that we find our flow and go deeper and explore other ways of being.  What Charles Eisenstein offers us is the gift.  He suggests it’s about making ourselves vulnerable and opening ourselves up to obligation by accepting the gifts of others.

This is very challenging because the invitation is to lean further into the messiness of dependency which allows the path to interdependence to be revealed.  It feels counter intuitive especially in a world where so many are trying to limit their level of dependence on others.  And yet it was only a couple of generations back when neighbours got stuck in and helped each other fix a leaking roof.  Now people tend to call out a roofer and in part that may be because that is what’s expected by their insurance. The net result is that it makes us feel more isolated.

Why is community so important?

The reason for earning more money is to get to a feeling of financial security and it seems to be important because it is a fundamental aspect of Maslow’s hierarchy of needs.  However even he repudiated his theories before he died. And that does not surprise me because having money doesn’t seem to make people feel happier or more fulfilled. In fact there’s a clue in the following quotation from one of my favourite philosophers:

It is when you give of yourself that you truly give.

Khalil Gibran

The reality is that what makes us feel good is small random acts of kindness.  If you are starting to feel sceptical then check out this article which actually summarises a lot of the recent research around the butterfly effect of kindness. It has a ripple effect and people are much more likely to pay it forward.

In giving even if you have very little to give you are carried by something much bigger than yourself and here’s the thing: you receive way more than you ever gave.  You could say that any act of generosity is actually self-interest.  And in these complex times we are asked to hold such paradoxes so that we can experience the truth: that’s the mystery that lives within Indigo.

Living in the gift can become a way of life.  And yes it is very counter cultural to the way that society currently operates. If any of this resonates with you and you wonder how to live that way, I invite you to take the first step. It was the Buddha that said more than any technique, method or teaching it’s about having noble friends.  This can translate as community.  Community helps you build resilience and living this way is a practice that’s not always easy. It can help you be in service to others which creates an invisible bond that leads to an intricate web of bonds.  If you fall, these bonds enable you to bounce back higher. 

In other words to stay the course you need a community so you can practise seeing the gift and honouring that through acts of service.  Something will open up inside you when you can see that in serving another you are serving yourself. Your heart expands as you step into gratitude recognising all you have been given already that you never earned – your next breath, your health, the list is endless.  The trick with all this is not to grasp at gratitude or cultivate it; rather allow it to bubble up like a well spring inside you.

If all that inspires you then I invite you to consider joining my community where we have a monthly conscious conversation; along with a monthly book club and many other goodies.  More than that it’s a way of living so that more consistently we find ourselves in the space of inter-being where we can acknowledge the interconnection of all: plants, minerals, animals, humans and the Divine otherwise known as the great chain of being.

To conclude we need each other as we are both human and divine.  What that means is that we can be incredibly generous and petty all in the same breath. As we lean into the messiness of this human experiment and allow all of who we are to show up then little by little it becomes easier to let go the need for control and any attachment to outcome.  From this place it feels as if there’s more room for gratitude and generosity to flourish.  This is fertile ground for bringing about societal change.  If you look at the greats like Gandhi, Mother Teresa and Mandela, they came from a place of love and compassion not anger. Remember we are in this together and release is possible when we see the abundance that surrounds us.  

Interestingly as I prepared for our next conscious conversation community gathering on 25 August, the shadow card I picked that will be our focus was judgement. Many do judge and yet it is pernicious and is probably a reflection of your own internal harsh critic. What fascinated me is that it is a red card so just like money it is linked to the root chakra and is masking a need for safety.

Living in the gift
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